Sometimes life teaches us through the experience of others. I suspect that at times, we see things more clearly with a little distance. Certainly we are experiencing the same Truths, but when it’s too close, it can sometimes be less obvious to us. Regardless, it’s a good day when we have the opportunity to remember that these principles work, all the time.
Yesterday I had the great opportunity to be reminded that when we are seeking Good, the best action to take is non-action, or what I would classify as “allowing”.
Unbeknownst to me, my grandchildren had learned of an event at the local Toys R Us where the first 50-shoppers would receive free Pokemon gifts, discounts and more. They were beside themselves that the Mother’s Day lunch I had invited them to with their mother/my daughter was going to knock them out of any chance to be in line as one of the first-50 shoppers.
True to their good little hearts, they went along with lunch (I knew there was a desire to go to Toys R Us – I was not made aware of the first-50-shoppers issue) like troopers, and we had a good meal and a nice time together. As we left the restaurant, they asked me if we could all go to Toys R Us. What grandmother do you know can refuse that request? I said, “of course!” and off we went.
We walked into the Toys R Us and apparently the event had been over for a couple hours, so there was no counting of the 50-lucky shoppers. Still, no sad faces or miserable dispositions. I had promised a small purchase for each of them (fidget spinners!) and they also wanted to browse the Pokemon and Beanie Boo items to make their upcoming birthday lists.
As we were combing through the latest Pokemon packs, a Toys R Us employee walked up and asked is if we had been there for the Pokemon event earlier. My daughter and the kids shook their heads, no. He said, “I’ll be right back,” and disappeared toward the front of the store.
He returned a few moments later with a packet of Pokemon goodies for each of them. They were ecstatic, and then he reappeared with 2 more items to add to each bag from the event.
We made our purchases and left the store, and my daughter used the opportunity of the teaching moment at hand.
“Remember when you were upset about missing the Pokemon event, and I said that you needed to let it go, and everything would work out one way or another?”
The kids nodded their heads.
“This is what I was telling you about earlier. Not only did you get the things you wanted, and thought you had missed, but you didn’t even have to ask – those goodies showed up and tapped you on the shoulder!”
The kids nodded excitedly, and chattered among themselves as they dug into their goodie bags. I reflected on the profound Truth lesson that had come forth in that simple toy store exchange. My grandchildren had a desire, but life appeared to be placing a barrier in front of that desire. Instead of throwing a temper tantrum, being resentful or miserable; they accepted that it wasn’t going to happen in the timeframe they would prefer,…and they let it go.
We had a nice lunch, they were cheerful, undistracted and delightful companions throughout our meal. I had no idea of the scope of the disappointment that was buried in missing the Pokemon event, that was scheduled to end right as we sat down to lunch.
How often do we put out a desire, and then along comes life – obligations, duties and other people’s schedules – to mess up our forward march toward the “Pokemon goodies” that we want so badly?
Too often we take on the energy of disappointment which influences our perspective. We begin to believe that now we must struggle to achieve our desire, if we’ll ever achieve it at all which makes us even grouchier. We may even take on the Eeyore persona.
This repels our Good instead of helping us move closer to it. In this Pokemon example, if the kids had hooted and hollered and been miserable throughout our lunch, we would have gone home after eating and not ventured over to Toys R Us.
I’m sure they were hoping that Grammy would buy them some small goodie (it’s a grandmother thing), and that helped to ease some of the disappointment at missing the “surprise goodies” promised to the first 50 shoppers. This ease set up an energy of allowing instead of an energy of repelling. They knew that Good was going to come their way, and so they relaxed and just let it happen.
This Good (defined in elementary school terms) was the acquisition of a small toy (the fidget spinner) and they were pleased as punch that Grammy was ready and willing to get them each this newest toy craze (< $6). But none of us would have predicted that the goodie bags would stalk us in the toy aisles and be delivered into their hands!
The lesson is obvious: get clear on what we desire. Know that it will come our way, and let go of the HOW – really let go! Letting go, or allowing, means as Mike Dooley puts it, that we keep our fingers out of the “cursed hows“. We resist the urge to micromanage the events that unfold in front of us, and we trust that the intention for Good we have put out into the Universe will be returned to us.
Edwene Gaines reminds us that in the Christian Bible we are guided to become like little children in order to enter the kingdom of heaven.
2 And calling to him a child, he put him in the midst of them 3 and said, “Truly, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. 4 Whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.… [Matthew 18:2-4]
In metaphysical circles the Kingdom of Heaven is known to be what we create right here, right now. So if we want to see more Good in our own right-here-right-now, the instructions are clear:
- follow the lead of small children who let go of micromanaging, and live with deep and abiding trust that their Good is on its way.
And so it is.
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